Jeff and his
brother, Paul, met at Bald Eagle State Park for a few days of fishing the week
before last. Many fish were caught - and
released - and they took a Segway tour of Penn State's campus (Paul is an
alum). Jeff called me the night before their tour and said he expected
his Segway may go out of control if The Creamery was not to be a scheduled stop
but, of course, it was. Paul managed to squeal the tires of his Segway in
a near accident which gave them a good laugh – later, and every time Jeff has
told the tale since. Jeff keeps talking
about the beautiful Nature Inn (a gold LEED building) and the good time he
had. Thank you, Paul!
An invitation to a luncheon for MDS families in Margate, NJ, gave us a good
excuse for a weekend down the shore. Friday night we relived our youth on
the Ocean City boardwalk, squeezing into a photo booth, playing mini-golf, riding
the Carousel and bumper cars. Fun! Saturday morning we visited Margate's
famous Lucy the elephant, climbing a circular staircase up one hind leg,
touring her belly, checking the view from her eyes and from the howdah on top,
then down the twisty staircase in her other hind leg. She is in excellent
condition at 133 years old!

Rochelle Ostroff-Weinberg hosted a group of MDS patients and caregivers at her
home in Margate. Two of the couples in attendance had been married for
more than 50 years so we were the young ones of the group unless you count the
caregivers who'd been married 25 years. Sudha Allitt, a holistic health
and spiritual counselor, led us in some Mindfulness practices - breathing and
meditation. We learned about the various types of breathing (angry, calm,
happy, fearful, etc.) and the healing properties of slow breathing. Jeff
enjoyed the exercises, could definitely see their value, but got stuck on the
instruction to feel the breath of the feeling you identified. Did it have
a breath? Jeff says he does similar things naturally to deal with stress and,
in my opinion, was more receptive to the presentation than he might have been
pre-cancer.
Our meeting lasted twice as long as scheduled. Perhaps we needed each other
twice as much as expected. Rochelle was gracious enough to let us stay and talk
everything out. One woman had never met another person with MDS.
We all learned something from each other
about treatment options and issues, web sites to check out, how to find a local
support group, diets to try. Rochelle laughed remembering her late
husband, Bob, trying a "weird vegetable diet" that was supposed to be
beneficial. He hated it. He persevered for a year until he gave it
up as a good effort, not worth the trouble.
We left Rochelle’s house and walked nearby Ventnor City's promenade and
streets, overshot our parking spot by half a mile which added a mile to our
stroll. Then we returned to Margate for a lovely bayside dinner at
Lamberti's Sunset Marina and Restaurant - Rochelle's recommendation. We
did not last until sunset but it was beautiful nonetheless.
En route to our weekend adventure, we'd listened to an audiobook,
Secret
Ingredients, an anthology of pieces by well-known food writers. The
first essay, by Joseph Mitchell, was about "Beefsteaks," a sort of
Beef-and-beer of yesteryear. There was a sign at one such event that read
"OICURMT" - a condition meant only to be temporary. Connecting
with the good folks at the MDS Foundation luncheon gave both of us a sense of
fullness.
It was good to refuel together
this weekend.
After two weeks off of Rosie-duty Jeff is anxious to return to his regular Monday-and-Friday
schedule. He misses her and I'll bet the feeling is mutual. I'm
looking forward to the Monday
morning picture Jeff will email to me at work. Maybe it will show our little
Rosie Posey walking on her own!